Forgive yourself | mteodoraa

 

What does it mean when you forgive yourself? And who could give forgiveness to himself and why would anyone do it? Today we live in  a world where we will ask many times over our lives why and where we have wronged it. We will ask ourselves what we did badly, so that one person has behaved so towards us, what else we could do differently, to don’t have the same end, and so on. And then we will fall into the darkness of our own regret and we will hardly find the way out. And what about  this? Stop and think a bit. Do you always blame yourself because a person has behaved badly towards you this morning? Do you think that you don’t do your job well if someone told you that who even doesn’t understand what you are doing? Don’t diminish your value if someone tells you that you are not worth it, because you are not to blame for others actions, but you have to keep an eye on yours.

Šta zapravo znači kada oprostiš sam sebi? I ko sve može da pruži oprost sam sebi i zašto bi to i iko uradio? Danas živimo u takvom svetu gde ćemo se dosta puta tokom života zapitati zašto i gde smo to pogrešili. Pitaćemo se šta smo loše uradili, pa se ta neka osoba ponela tako prema nama, šta smo mogli drugačije da uradimo da nemamo isti kraj i slično. I onda ćemo da padnemo u tamu sopstvenog žaljenja i teško ćemo naći izlaz. A čemu sve to? Zastanite i razmislite malo. Jeste li vi baš uvek krivi zato što se neka osoba jutros loše ponela prema vama? Da li mislite da ne radite svoj posao dobro ako vam je tako rekao neko ko se i ne razume u to što radite? Nemojte da umanjujete svoju vrednost ako vam neko kaže da ne  vredite, jer vi niste krivi za tuđe postupke, ali o svojim morate da vodite računa.

Who is wrong here? Why did this happen? What could have been different? Are these issues that tires you every time when you try to drink the first morning coffee, walk around the street, feel the pain when you smile, do you get turned into a sad moment of happiness because you made a mistake? No. Wait a minute. Learn to forgive yourself. Learn to forgive yourself all that you have not been and everything you secretly want to be. Forgive yourself for not being perfect and reconciling yourself with yourself. I know, because I was a child, and for my mistakes I made, and for the other mistakes that left scars on me, I always blamed myself. And I know you’re doing the same. Although you know, deeply in yourself, that you are not guilty of anything, you still doubt yourself. Don’t. Forgiveness is an expression of love, so  love yourself. So forgive yourself.

Ko je ovde kriv? Zašto se to desilo? Šta je moglo biti drugačije? Da li su to pitanja koja vas zamaraju svaki put kada pokušate da popijete prvu jutarnju kafu, da prošetate ulicom, da li osetite bol kada se nasmejete, da li vam se svaki trenutak sreće pretvori u tugu jer ste vi pogrešili? Ne. Stanite malo. Naučite da oprostite sebi. Naučite da oprostite sebi sve ono što niste bili i sve ono što potajno želite da budete. Oprostite sebi što niste savršeni i pomirite se sami sa sobom. Ja znam, jer bila sam dete, i za svoje greške koje sam pravila, i za tuđe greške koje su ostavile posledice na mene, ja sam uvek krivila sebe. A znam da i ti to radiš isto. Iako znaš, duboko u sebi, da nisi ni za šta kriv, ti ipak sumnjaš u sebe. Nemoj. Oproštaj je izraz ljubavi, zato voli sebe. Zato oprosti sebi.

The process of healing last, and the pain that you feel today will not stop as an ugly dream when you wake up in the morning. But there is something you can do to speed up the process, to help yourself. Forgive. In order to cure wounds, you have to forgive, and most often the person to whom we need forgiveness, are ourselves. You know why? Because while you’re in a hurry, you rush, you buy flowers for a person who will throw it into the trash, you write nice words that no one reads, you spend your life on someone whom your life doesn’t mean anything, one person is sitting alone in the darkness of the corner room. And that person is you. So, forgive yourself for not knowing what you did not know before you learned it. Forgive yourself and be free.

Proces izlečenja traje, i bol koji danas osećaš, neće prestati kao ružan san kada se probudiš ujutru. Ali, postoji nešto što možeš da uradiš kako bi ubrzao proces, kako bi pomogao sebi. Oprosti. Da bi izlečio rane, moraš da oprostiš, a najčešće osoba kojoj oprost treba, smo mi sami. Znaš zašto? Zato što dok juriš, žuriš, kupuješ cveće za osobu koja će ga svakako baciti u smeće, pišeš lepe reči koje niko neće pročitati, trošiš svoj život na nekoga kome tvoj ne znači ništa, jedna osoba sedi usamljena u tami ćoška sobe. I ta osoba si ti. Zato, oprosti sebi što nisi znao ono što nisi znao pre nego što si to naučio. Oprosti sebi i budi slobodan.

I know, and I know that you know, that every question ‘Where am I wrong?’ inflicted a new wave of pain, and this seems inevitable to you. I know you think this pain is your punishment for sin that both of us know you did not commit. You can’t make people like you except one person … except yourself. So accept yourself together with all your defects and let go. Nobody is perfect, and don’t let anyone ask it from you. Cat  will never be able to ask a dog  to be a cat, and a dog to ask a wolf to be a dog. Stop hiding behind the shadow of the past, it’s there for the reason – to make you the person you are now. Don’t let the person sitting in the dark be trapped in memories and drown in the pain that is inflicted on her. Let the light penetrate it, let it be light. Because, only if you forgive yourself, you will  be able to forgive others.

Ja znam, a znam da znaš i ti, da svako pitanje ‘Gde sam pogrešio?’ nanosio novi talas bola, i to ti se čini kao neizbežno. Znam da misliš da je taj bol tvoja kazna za greh koji oboje znamo da nisi počinio. Ne možeš da nateraš ljude da te vole, osim jedne osobe… osim tebe samog. Zato prihvati sebe zajedno sa svim tvojim manama i pusti. Niko nije savršen, i nemoj da dozvoliš da to iko od tebe traži. Nikada neće moći mačka od psa da traži da bude mačka, niti pas od vuka da bude pas. Prestani da se kriješ iza senki prošlosti, ona je tu sa razlogom – da te učini osobom kakva si sada. Ne dozvoli da osoba koja sedi u tami bude zarobljena u uspomenama i da se udavi u bolu koje joj iste nanose. Dozvoli da svetlo prodre do nje, dozvoli da budeš svetlo. Jer, jedino ako sebi oprostiš, tek ćeš onda moći da oprostiš i drugima.

Don’t stop. Forgive yourself once and for all, and again, until you think it’s over. Until you get on your feet, you stop buying flowers, because you know that you deserve better, you stop wasting your words on someone, because you know that someone other will give everything to listen to you. And then, when you let yourself feel happy, you will be able to be happy. And you will only then realize how much forgiveness is important, because it will teach you one very important thing – you will learn to love.

Nemoj da staješ. Oprosti sebi jednom i još jednom i opet, sve dok ne misliš da je gotovo. Sve dok ne staneš na svoje noge, prestaješ da kupuješ sveće, jer znaš da zaslužuješ bolje, prestaneš da trošiš svoje reči na nekoga, jer znaš da će neko dati sve da te sluša. I onda, kada pustiš sebe da osetiš sreću, moći češ da budeš srećan. I tek ćeš tada da shvatiš koliko je oprost važan, jer će te on naučiti jednoj veoma važnoj stvari – naučićete da voliš.

And you will love. You will love yourself because of who you are, not because of what people expect you to be and you will love people, because you will learn to forgive them for not being perfect, just as you are not. And on this path, where you will be following by the light, it is important to remember that the past is part of you, but you don’t live there anymore.

I volećeš. Volećeš sebe zbog onoga ko si, a ne zbog onoga što ljudi očekuju da budeš i volećeš ljude, jer ćeš naučiti da im oprostiš što nisu savršeni, baš kao što nisi ni ti. I na tom putu, gde ćeš biti praćen svetlom, važno je da upamtiš da je prošlost deo tebe, ali da ne živiš više tamo.

So, forgive yourself … this is the only way you can start again.

Zato, oprosti sebi.. to je jedini način da počneš ponovo.

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27 thoughts on “Forgive yourself | mteodoraa

  1. turning20web says:

    So true!!
    When we learn to forgive, a blissful glow strikes our face. It’s so calming.
    But, sometimes the best revenge sometimes is forgiving and growing strong.
    We shall not allow our past to blackmail us, to ruin our future..
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts…
    🌼

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